The tools of Deep Democracy can be used at the most personal level, including within families and interpersonal relationships, as well as your relationship with yourself. Couples and families across ages, ethnicities, classes and persuasions are using Deep Democracy to enhance relationships and enable inclusive decision-making. Children, especially, enjoy the practice of Deep Democracy. For those of us committed to shaping a generation of inclusive, open-minded youngsters who can make decisions without conflict, the methodology proves uniquely relevant and pragmatic.
Here are some examples of how to use the tools of Deep Democracy in your own life and with your family and friends.
For resources on how to bring Deep Democracy into your personal and family life, please visit our Course Information page. Look for our new Parent Effectiveness Training and the OOH-Zoo children's book.
The Deep Democracy methodology can be used in assisting to improve those relationships that are important to us, whether personal or professional. Whenever two people are in relationship, much of what goes on remains unsaid. For example, your partner may do something that annoys you, but in the interest of keeping the relationship possitive, you don't say anything. Similarly, there might be something about your colleague that you continuously appreciate, but in the interest of avoiding awkwardness you never tell them about it. In both cases the negative or the positive unsaid comments pile up and remain as either an untapped resource or an explosive hazard. The idea behind the relationship work in Deep Democracy is that a relationship can improve to the extent that we can actually say and hear those things that usually go unsaid. The relationship tools provide safe spaces for these exchanges to happen.
Some of the settings in which the Deep Democracy tools can be used to work with interpersonal relationships include:
Marriage guidance and couple counseling Pre and post marriage guidance sessions (teaching couples how to "fight" constructively) Family counselling (improving relationship among siblings, parents and children etc) Business settings where: